DOMesticated-ish: The Why

I googled the definition of "domesticated" and this is what I got: do·mes·ti·cated

/dəˈmestəˌkādəd/

adjective

1. (of an animal) tame and kept as a pet or on a farm.

   "domesticated dogs"

   • (of a plant) cultivated for food; naturalized.

     "domesticated crops"

   • often humorous

     fond of home life and housework.

     "he is thoroughly domesticated"

K well obviously I'm not an animal so we'll stick with "fond of home life and housework". Now that you know the definition of domesticated since I'm sure you didn't know before you entered this blog, let's get into the why behind DOMesticated-ish. To be totally honest this blog idea has been in the back of my mind for a long time. It wasn't until recently that I really started to feel the pull to start it. I started looking into blog names and blog topics and came across the word "domesticated". A little PSA about me is that no one calls me Dominique. If you call me by my whole name I will think I am in trouble. I introduce myself as Dom and people often just call me that without being told to. Anyways, I thought DOMesticated was a fun play on words, but as I thought about it further it really brought up this image I have of myself. I went from riding and racing dirt bikes for all of my twenties and motocross being my whole identity to suddenly taking care of two tiny humans and dogs while keeping up with housework, laundry, planning activities for babies and toddlers, and never riding my dirt bike or even wanting to. It feels like the adrenaline seeking, adventurous side of me was so far gone. I think a lot of us moms often think about this new role we're in and go "when did I become this person? I'm still a teenager". I love my kids and I love being Mom more than anything else in this world, but when it comes to my identity - that is exactly how I feel. I feel like I turned 25 and stayed 25 yet here I am at 33 and living a completely different life. And I'll be honest "fond of home life and house work" is not at all me. I'm a homeowner but I hate housework. I like a tidy space and am really leaning into clutter free life, but I'm not the type A Mom that's always organized and constantly tidying/cleaning - if that's you you're a rockstar! Keep slaying mama! I say fuck in front of my kids, I still think the word "poop" is funny, and the other day my toddler and I were making fart noises on our hands. The laundry is not a once-a-day chore, I still haven't made a single "yummy toddler food" recipe that I've had written on the fridge for half a year and my car can't stay tidy for more than a day. I drive a white SUV but I'm the black SUV Mom -- if that. IYKYK. So no, I will never be fully domesticated , but DOMesticated-ish? That's me.

I definitely don't have it all together. But I have stories and some sarcasm. Domesticated-ish means showing up a little messy but 100% me. Being a mom is insanely rewarding, fulfilling, and magical. Motherhood is a part of me that I love and feel has helped shape me into who I am today. There is a lot of good stuff to share. But motherhood is not all rainbows and butterflies. It's hard. It's chaotic. It's an emotional freaking rollercoaster and there are things that I don't think get spoken about enough that I'm not afraid to get a little vulnerable about. So thanks for being here. I hope you see a little bit of yourself in the "-ish", too.

As always, we're in this together ♥︎

Love,

Dom